Even Sincere Love is poison when it lacks acceptance - approval and patronizes
This is a very profound lesson – that one will never teach you in theoretical schools of any kind
Wise one will understand its depth – for it is one that so many learned after enormous pain, whether it be in the form of emotional strikes, disturbance of ego – self-esteem – personal pride
One that you will not start understanding in the early ages of this lifetime
This will surprise a beginner, but one has been through a well crossed paths which provide him with a gain of deep wisdom, analysis will grasp
Sincerity is a rare quality – a golden one, where sincere love and loyalty are very rare and exclusive, people may be sincere and love only a very tight list – which they consider distinguished, nothing surprising here
But not always does sincerity and honest love guarantee not causing harm – when there are other factors in the equation – like respect – most importantly – acceptance and approval, and of course tolerance – and of course harmony – chemistry and enjoying the love one's company
Maybe that is not so common – more importantly not easy to spot – but when sincere love is present – but lacks accepting the loved ones, respecting, approval of and tolerance, a subconscious sentiment of total lack of approval – such a situation causes a deep atmosphere of involuntarily expressing displease, a spirit of blind criticism, it becomes offensive and gradually insulting
When acceptance and approval are absent – a tendency of patronizing and a vision of a need to guide and eventually control – and when the relations are tight – they may drag the loved one to a world of catastrophes – so emotional strikes, added to practical damages and another dangerous aspect
That aspect is the formation of a demanding a binding and obligatory preservation of a non harmonized relations – where tension, lack of balance and clarity- confusion dominate
This scenario is a one that becomes an embodiment of social and relational rape and violation
In such situations – and there should be no compromise in this situation –either one party decides to a commitment of dealing with his own sentiments – there is no solution here that relies and works on attempting self discipline – because that is not natural and artificial –one that becomes a temporary self deception and not a solution – one that turns to attempts to force artificially cheers, but will collapse once an emotion or a scenario becomes stressful
No – the only way is by working on himself, rather than violating the loved one on intervals to try to associate – IT WON’T WORK
And if they simply are unable to change their inner world, one must never violate others – by asking for chances to improve
In the Movie “As good as it gets” the woman tells Jack Nicholson “All you do is make me feel bad about myself” despite the fact that the hero Loves her passionately – but he is arrogant and his way is to patronize
No one is obliged to be in situations where he is and to feel bad about himself
People – Do not enforce social terrorism
